5 tips for Building Intimacy - Creating more love and connection
If you have a fear of intimacy is because you have a fear of abandonment, betrayal, and rejection. Fear of intimacy is at the heart of codependency. You might have these fears because you were wounded in early childhood and you feel unworthy and unlovable now.
Building intimacy is important in a relationship means feeling the opposite of alone and isolated. Intimacy requires dialogue and reciprocity. Many people are very afraid of the idea of intimacy because they think it means that they could get hurt, but when you build intimacy, fear of intimacy diminishes with time.
5 Intimacy Tips.
- Talk things out together and be honest. You cannot create a healthy relationship based on shouting at each other or any kind of "companionable silence". You need to talk to the other person, even if you're not the garrulous type. And never try to hide your feelings, even when you disagree with them. Always wear your heart on your sleeve with the one you love. Be honest with every communication.
- Acceptance. Your partner is who she is. You are who you are. Never try to change each other. This is an all-too-common mistake. You need to accept the one you love as she is, and you have to make it clear to her that you expect the same from her. You are supposed to love someone for what you see in them-not for what you believe you can put in them.
- Have special evenings together. This can mean sex, of course, but it doesn't have to. It can mean going out on a date, even if you're married. The important thing is to keep these as regular occurrences. Don't wait for holidays and birthdays. Have a special evening together no less than once per week. Have one every night, if that's possible.
- Take time to alone with yourself. It is crucial that you understand that you do not need to be around the one you love 24-7. You need alone time, and so does she. She may need less than you, or vice versa. The two of you need to reach an understanding about this matter, if you find that you have conflicts here. You do not want to become emotionally dependent on the other person. You want to enjoy their company, not use them as a drug.
- 5. Laugh and play together. Stop being so serious together all the time! So you are in a serious relationship-so what? You need to have times together when you drive go-karts or try to spray each other with whipped cream. Laughter is infectious for good reason.
Building intimacy is a matter of both partners working on open communication and trust above all else. Intimacy is the best thing you'll ever experience in life. But it is up to you to allow it to happen. And that simply means doing the things that allow it to manifest, without fear.© www.relationships-tips-advise.com